Sin # 1 - Failure to fulfill your God’s responsibilities:
God commissioned man to be the protector, the supplier, and give the purpose of marriage The goal is what most marriages lack. We are getting married to sex without a conscious guilty and a little bit different. What is the true point of marriage? There must be a goal.
Almost every person I met needs to be protected and supported by his family. When men do not do this, they struggle with problems of security, loneliness, depression and anxiety. Word husband comes from the word "group"; like a rope or strong cable that protects or keeps something from breaking.
In Genesis 2:15, God orders Adam dress garden, or to meet his needs. He was also ordered Keep garden, or protect it. God has invested in every person's instinctive desire to protect and provide for someone. This is what a person has invested in him. This is an instinct.
This does not mean that a woman is incapable. In fact, biblically, she has less human need than a man. But men love to be a knight in shining armor. Men love to brag. They like the concept of saving a girl in distress. It kindly complements the instincts that are embedded in man.
But if the husband does not do this in his marriage, he fights with the feeling of part of the marriage. Dozens of marriages, which I advised, fought because the husband was depressed because his wife, not he, was the main supplier in the house. The wife does nothing wrong by working, but he still feels that way.
Sin # 2 - Unwillingness to take responsibility:
Men do not take responsibility because they are often immature. I think most people agree that men tend to mature more slowly than the average woman. This is not always the case, but it is really the case to be a recurring problem in marriages.
Learn to take responsibility in marriage. Do not pass it on to your wife or children, or work, or circumstances. Do not run away with friends at night and leave your family in need. Do not put the blame on your wife. Take responsibility.
If marriage is a problem, take a look at it. I will ask a couple who have marriage problems to rate their marriage from 1 to 10, with 10 of them being the best and 1 the worst. In 99 cases out of 100, the wife will rate the marriage worse than the husband. There is a problem, and he refuses to see it or to do it, or to take responsibility for it.
I can guarantee that more women will read this article than men. This is an unfortunate tragedy.
Sin number 3 - Reactive, not active:
Men tend to respond to life and often force their wives to make decisions rather than make difficult decisions on their own. The average woman does not like the manager's husband. But the same woman does not want a piece of her husband on the log, either. Often, the security of a woman comes from her husband, who is ready to make difficult choices in life, and then act on him. She is protected by an amorous husband who does not act like a pinball machine, but has direction and purpose.
Recently, my wife and I began to worry about some of her health problems. She knew what had to be done, but she felt insecure about making decisions unilaterally. When I finally realized the problem, and it took some time, I told her what we were going to do. Yes, I told her. Because the decision was for her, and she knew it. She told me that the decision made her feel loved and safe.
This is due to the fact that I have already mentioned the provision and protection of instinct. Women do not object to her husband, who makes tough decisions that protect her and provide for her.
It is true that a person is mistaken when he does not take into account his wife’s opinion in any decision. But forcing her to make a decision, because you do not want to be disappointed for most women. And so is the husband, who only makes decisions that are in his own interests. This will cancel the safety of his wife. She can not throw on her husband, who is only interested in himself.
Sin # 4 - Not involved in raising children:
Husbands, as a rule, watch a child coming from afar. Then they want to tell their wife what went wrong. Not a good plan. Don't be the guy who runs off to work, comes home and demands that everyone leave him alone so he can relax. You may feel that you need to relax, but your children will suffer for it.
On average, men have more influence on children than their mother. Children instinctively seek dad. There are many reasons for this, but just listen to the bragging of the child. He rarely ever says my mom can beat your mom. Instead, he, my dad, can beat your father. Rarely does a child want to grow up to be like a mom. Instead, the child wants to grow up to be like a dad. This applies to both boys and girls.
All this means that in the children's upbringing a person cannot occupy the back seat. He needs to jump up and mess his hands. He cannot just be an angry student all the time or a guy who is visible for ten minutes a day and then hides in his room or garage. It should be an active part of the life of children.
Spend time with your children, dad!
Sin # 5 - Failure to understand that good sex is a way of life, not an action:
Men often refer to sex only as physical performance. Good sex is best when there is emotional and mental involvement. Every woman will agree with me.
Do not get your physical satisfaction, then roll over and fall asleep. Do not leave it empty. I once read that if a husband can make his wife climax five times, they have sex, that she will be more satisfied than the average woman. I really don't know how true that is. But I know that my husband bought to do his best, and I mean every effort to make sure his wife is sexually fulfilled.
That means you need to talk. You need to caress. You should have a lot of foreplay. You have to create a good atmosphere. You have to please her.
Good sex is a direct reflection of your marriage. If your sex life is 1,2,3 ... ahhhh, I do it all the time and every time, then I can guarantee that your marriage is suffering, and you can't even understand it.
Sin # 6 - The development of private worlds that exclude wife and children:
Too many men build islands or foreign lands in their minds. They have the minds of Las Vegas in their Christian bodies. He closes his wife from this little world of fantasy and excludes her from his thoughts and fantasies.
This is problem. This will create all sorts of problems. No woman can justify your fantasy women, whom you run in your head. No woman can compete with the world from which she is excluded.
Allow your wife in all areas of your life. A dream and plan for the future with your wife. The average wife does not really know her husband. He doesn't talk. He does not tell her about his ambitions or dreams. This is a mistake, gentlemen. Your wife is a part of you, and you should not be in your life where she is not welcomed.
Now she may not be interested in some of them. For example, when you go out and play basketball with guys, sometimes, but she bought it to know that she can come if she wants.
Sin # 7 - Spiritual followers, not spiritual leaders:
In most Christian families, a wife is a spiritual leader, not a husband. There is a good reason for this. Women, by nature, tend to be more spiritual than men. This is evidenced by the disproportion of men and women in our churches today.
But when the husband is the spiritual leader, he brings stability and security to the home. Spiritual guidance and leadership mean that you have to think about those you lead. You must take an interest in the character, morality, values, and mental development of your family.
Leadership is not control. It is not dictatorial. He takes responsibility for the well-being of your family. The average woman will not stop following a man who has proven that he has a wife and children at the heart of his decisions. Leadership instills in someone else a desire to follow. If you can't make someone want to follow, then you are not a very good leader.
Be a spiritual example in your home, a Christian pope. Read your Bible, lead a prayer, and live the moral and values that you want everyone else to live.
Sin # 8 - Boring and unimaginable:
Men tend to fall into a rut. I know it to be when it comes to food. I am very picky and can eat the same things over and over again. But in general, do not become so. Do not enter a routine that begins to isolate you from your family.
Take the reins and do with your wife. Do not do the same. Add a little imagination to the marriage. Start a new project together, exit on an unusual date, or write an erotic letter to your wife. Bring some imagination back to marriage.
Women appreciate thoughtfulness in relationships. When you return some spice to marriage, it overcomes many of the disadvantages of marriage. When you are boring and unruffled, he very much emphasizes problems.
Sin # 9 - Ignorance and insensitivity to the ten basic needs of the wife:
- connection
- Financial and physical security
- Affection demonstration
- Non-sexual contact
- Need to praise for the effort
- Spiritual growth
- Emotional release
- Family unity
- Confirmation of her beauty
- Time alone with my husband
Find ways to give her each of these ten basic needs. She will love you.
Sin number 10 - failure to prepare for the future:
And not only in the absence of forethought. But when you do not plan the future of marriage, financially, for children, you will not give your wife the security she needs.
For my wife, knowing that I planned things like retirement, old age, death, when children left, when children are teenagers, when children get married, when the Church grows, and so on.
