This is the most common request that the trainer-tutor says: “Could you help me not to get nervous before the audience?” And an honest answer: “No”. Famous performers Rihanna, Beyonce and Harry Styles all recognize the level of nervousness that makes them physically sick. Adele once said: "One exhibition in Amsterdam, I was so nervous that I ran away from the exit of the fire." Actress Emma Watson described it as "a kind of paralysis."
So, if professional performers are so anxious, what hope for all of us? Do not despair. Although it may not be possible to eliminate nervousness, you can transform the “bad” nerves into nerves. Here are a few tips that I have been using for over thirty years - so I know that they work.
1. Stop trying to avoid the inevitable.
Just before they go on stage, most speakers have a head full of unrealistic desires — dreams that are destined to be shattered. They hope that they will not have an empty space. or lose your way. They will probably be - then they will spend the rest of their speech regretting it. Instead, they should remind them of these facts:
• Most gaps in consciousness last less than two seconds (although they look much longer when you're there). This means that most audience members will not even notice it - or, if they do, they will think that you have suspended action.
• Checking your notes to cause your memory or return to its original position does not interfere with your presentation. This adds to your trust because it shows that you are prepared and have spent your time organizing your thoughts in advance. The audience assesses your authority on your topic - not your memory. So prepare your notes clearly so you can tell yourself when this will happen.
2. Understand your nervousness
Speaking in front of the group, you should feel nervous because they take important time. The time during which the loudspeakers become the most upset is when nervousness catches them off guard. They think: “I expected to be nervous, but I did not expect THIS TO BE nervous!” Experience has shown that we all have a certain audience that makes us feel more anxious than others. These can be friends, strangers, family, peers, superiors, or subordinates. Find out which group is for you so that it doesn’t take you by surprise.
3. Control what you can
Many speakers say that the worst feeling is under control. - with all observers. Standing in front of an audience will trigger an adrenaline rush. You have no control over it, and it can lead to too fast, uncoordinated movement, voice tremor, shortness of breath, dry mouth, redness, sweating, and many other unsuccessful symptoms. Actions taken can be taken to counteract this — to get yourself under control. Take a deep breath before you speak, slow yourself down with a more balanced deliberate walk to your talking position and get water near the mouthful if your mouth is dry.
4. Stop trying to please everyone
Well, this may not be considered when you give a wedding toast, but in business presentations, if you change your speech to say only that everyone agrees with her, it will be so soft that no one wants to listen. Putting an alternative point of view and reinforcing it with a strong argument will always be more attractive than slovenly platitudes.
5. You do not have to be an expert in the room.
Some speakers convince them that, speaking of the subject, they should be the most experts on the subject. Not this way. Do not try to play an expert. You have unique experiences and perspectives on this topic that provide valuable information. This is your gift to the audience.
Nervousness when talking to an audience is natural. Stop trying to avoid it and use these tips to make it work for you.
